Today's show (i missed a good 20 minutes of it) was about rich kids over doing it and their parents doing something about it. Like they had that one girl who made her parents spend over 200 000$ for a birthday party a 98 000$ bimmer or Benz then going to college for the first semester then reach second tells her dad well they lost my grade i can't go back to school going to the beach later. Daddy had enough and sent her to Africa, where she had to walk 4 hours to get water and carry it on her head example. She kept crying, cause she was never used to do anything at home then Having the other African girls looking at her wondering what's wrong with that white girl.

She came back changed working, living on her own and giving her platinum and gold credit card back to her dad.

The second one was similar but they sent her to Peru in one room house, that's where she had to eat,sleep with the guinea pigs etc. She came back working, living in her own apartment and sending some of her money to the family who let her stay by them.

I remember them saying something about being a part of some Mtv show can't remember the name

Would you guys spoil your kids? what would you do if they would turn out as spoiled?

[BlueSerenity]

the show is called exiled...but i think they were from the sweet 16 show first then sent on exiled...i think parents do such a disservice to their kids when they spoil them...many say they just trying to give their kids the things they never had.... and i can understand that but giving your child things and teaching them that they are just things that have nothing to do with who they are is different from teaching a child to feel entitled to have those things and believing that those those things are linked to who they are so without those things they are nothing...so they will do anything to keep or get those things...and that is exactly how those kids will grow up with fragile self esteem and in turn will interact with other people...
speaking from experience my parents showered us with things but they always made sure we knew that they gave them to us because they could not because of anything we had done to earn or deserve them..in other words we got them because of who our parents were and what they had not because of who we were...lol..talk about keeping real...thats my mom for you..lol...but they kept telling us that those were just things and we should not get too attached to them...one way of doing that was making us give away many of the "things" they bought us...which also taught us about giving from very early...i dont know if that works for everyone but i can say that it worked for my sis and I...we both still have a shared sense of giving and we are not very impressed by material things which has disappointed many guys......honestly though i will do the same for my kids..ill give to them but i wont go outside of what i can afford but i will also find ways to make them understand that material things dont make them who they are and i hope to be able to instill in them and sense of community and giving and helping others..if im consistent with that...meaning if i not only tell them but also live it in my own life then i have a good chance of them not turning out to be spoiled...if they turn out to be spoiled anyway then our home will be a constant battle because i wont give up on them and trying to show them differently..

[Mz K]

my mom did the same with me too she made sure i realize that hse worked very hard to get me anything she got me. especially that she was a single mom i saw things on my own as well. i always gave most of my toys to my little cousins lol her parents (who were loaded) never had to spend a dime on toys even up to now lol

So do you think the parents are completely to blame or the kids/teens are also to blame for no being smart enough to notice certain things?

[BlueSerenity]

personally i think that by the time u are a teenager most of that stuff is already a part of you...so it has more to do with the parents setting that standard from early...setting those boundaries...kids have to have boundaries and rules by which to live and its up to the parents to not only set them but follow through on the consequences to breaking those rules...many parents dont follow through so kids know they can get away with things....and they will keep pushing that boundary...that what kids will do...its up the parents to decide if they want to be a real parents instead of being a companion or a friend...

[Mz K]

would you send your kids to africa if that could change them?

[T.r.i.n.i.]

Thats that show on MTV: Exiled. . . I've seen those episodes. . . Pretty interesting stuff. . . But I think its hard NOT to spoil your kids when you got a shit load of money. . . Its not that you're giving them the World because they want it. . . You're giving it to them cuz thats what you have to give. . . I think its just tough for rich parents

[BlueSerenity]

Originally Posted by Mz K

would you send your kids to africa if that could change them?

nope i dont really believe in sending your kids away for someone else to fix a problem that you created...but if for unexpected reason i couldnt take care of it because lets say i would have to work on myself as a parent..my own parenting skills and needed some time for that then the only person i would send mine to would be my mom...and still i think i would want to be there also so that we can live what we both learned...because it makes no sense if the child changed but the parent continue doing whatever they were doing...the parents need to change their parenting style also if not then it defeats the purpose of the child going away..