Dancehallareaz.com Entertainment - Grown Folks Matters http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum Thats where the Mature talk goes in,Lifestyle etc en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:31:32 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/./images/styles/dhaz2007/misc/rss.jpg Dancehallareaz.com Entertainment - Grown Folks Matters http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum 4 Other Ways To Ask For Some http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39806-4-other-ways-ask-some.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:40:40 GMT ---Quote--- The P. Diddy (Take That, Take That) * Diddy made the phrase take that famous in...
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The P. Diddy (Take That, Take That)

* Diddy made the phrase take that famous in the nineties. This was Burr before Burr was burr. So why not bring this classic phrase into the bedroom. While your boo is in the house doing chores, reading, or even on the phone simply sneak up behind them and start having sex. Women should unzip and pull out their man’s manxilla and go to work. Men, we should grab our lady by the back of the neck, throw them on the bed and get busy. Pull down her pants and do everything written in this blog here, then put her on all fours and put her in these positions described in this blog here. She’ll love you I promise.

The Surprise Party:

* In a relationship we become really comfortable and we forget about being creative. We ask, can I get some tonight, or if we are sitting in the house we say “let’s do it“. If this sounds like you, then try the surprise party. Go into the other room, and when you return come back in completely naked. Do a little dance, climb on top of your boo, or simple plant a passionate kiss on your lover’s lips. This will really get the ball rolling and maybe even spark a devilish laugh from the love of your life.

More Stripping:

* No I don’t want you to work the poll even though more women should take up poll dancing and more men should have a pole in the basement. What I would like to suggest is that we play more games for clothing. Play a game of strip monopoly or strip chess, or strip dominoes. Even crank it up a notch and start the game off naked and the loser has to perform a sexual act. This could be a fun way to end up inside of a woman or for women to end up with something inside of them.

Role Play:

* I think some of us do this, but not enough. You don’t have to be different people, like a nurse or a cop. Simply put yourself in different scenarios, make believe the two of you are being chased by Freddy Kruger and the only way to keep him from killing you is to have sex all night long or my personal favorite. Start a fake fight w/o the other person knowing it. Curse them out, throw something at them missing on purpose while saying something “See I knew you were no good! I followed you today and your monkey a** was looking so sexy that I have to come home and…” You get my drift they might think you’re crazy at first, but once you break it down into the sexy, they’ll get with the program.


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]]> Grown Folks Matters Mz K http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39806-4-other-ways-ask-some.html What are Your checkpoints for a potential partner http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39802-what-your-checkpoints-potential-partner.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:21:36 GMT came across this article and found it interesting...and although it seems as if it was written with... came across this article and found it interesting...and although it seems as if it was written with women in mind...i think the same concept applies to men also...so what are your checkpoints for a potential partner...and are they always in the same order...

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We are built to instantly size up a potential partner...
...we regularly make up our minds about whether an individual could be an appropriate match within the first three minutes of talking to him (or her).

Indeed, it takes less than one second to decide whether you find someone physically attractive. Too short, too tall, too old, too young, too scruffy, or too scrubbed—he/she's out. If, however, she/he fits your general concept , your mind races toward the next checkpoint:
Voice. Once again, you respond in seconds. Women typically regard rapid talkers as more educated and men with full, deep voices as better-looking than they are.
Next: his Words. We like people who use the same kinds of words we use. We are also drawn to those who have a similar degree of intelligence, share our religious and social values, and come from the same economic background—and we quickly determine these attributes from a man's words (not to mention how he dresses and wears his hair, whether he's carrying a briefcase or a soccer ball, and if he's sporting a gold watch or a tattoo).

But can this handsome, deep-voiced, well-dressed stranger give you what you need? Even on the bigger questions, we often form an opinion within the first three minutes if the conversation turns to, say, politics or kids. .
]]> Grown Folks Matters BlueSerenity http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39802-what-your-checkpoints-potential-partner.html <![CDATA["Gender Genocide"- The Mamogram contoversy]]> http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39773-gender-genocide-mamogram-contoversy.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:22:57 GMT So apparently researchers had nothing to do as usual and they decided to pass the time they would... So apparently researchers had nothing to do as usual and they decided to pass the time they would research the pros and cons of mamography.

The results they came up with is that womaen don't need mamograms until they are the ripe ole age of 50..... apparently they say that women under 50 don't need all that radiation because it gradually does more harm than good

One person on the view speaking on the issue called it "Gender Genocide".....what say you my dhaz counterparts?
Do you think they should deny women under the age of 50 mamograms?
Do you think the need for awareness is worthe the potentential damage?

Over and over they have said that the key to surviving cancer is early detection, so how exactly does delaying the testing procedures help that cause? ]]> Grown Folks Matters Shana B http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39773-gender-genocide-mamogram-contoversy.html What is Your Personality Combination http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39752-what-your-personality-combination.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 15:54:17 GMT Choose 1 option of each category...the result will be your personality combination or type which... Choose 1 option of each category...the result will be your personality combination or type which will then consist of your 4 choices...so you are choosing between Extravert and Introvert...then between Sensing and Intuiting...then between Thinking and Feeling...then between Judging and Perceiving...You can let us know is the combination is the same or different in your professional/work/school environment and your personal/social environment..

In this context Extraversion is not about being loud and Introversion is not about being shy. It is about where people get their energy and motivation from: other people or within themselves.

Extraversion= E
The energy of extraverts is outward, towards people and things. They need a lot of stimulation and often express emotions. They get their motivation from other people.
Their often want to change the world (rather than think about it). Extraverts like variety, action and achievement. They do well at school but may find University more difficult.
Their attitude is often relaxed and confident. They are understandable and accessible. They tend to act first and think later.
At work, they seeks variety and action and like working with other people. They prefer work that has breadth rather than depth.
Introverts may see them as being shallow and pushy.

Introversion=I
The energy of introverts is inward toward concepts and ideas. They need little external stimulation - and in fact they can easily be over-stimulated. it is possible that they focus more on their inner worlds because they suffer from sensory overload if they spend too much time outside and focusing on other people. They thus bottle up their own emotions, which can explode if pushed too far.
Rather than trying to change the world, they just want to understand it. They think deeply about things and often do better at University than they did at school.
Their attitude is reserved and questioning and they can seem subtle and impenetrable. They tend to think before they act.
At work they like to work alone and often seek quiet for concentration. They tend to prefer work that has depth rather than breadth.
Extraverts may see them as egocentric and passive.

In this context Sensing isnt just about touch and vision... and Intuiting isnt just about gut feeling or fluffiness but more about how we attend and create meaning: from immediate data or after deeper thought.

Sensing=S
Sensors pay attention to both immediate data from their five senses and from their own direct experiences. They are create meaning from conscious thought, rather than trusting their subconscious, limiting their attention to facts and solid data. As necessary, they will happily dig into the fine detail of the situation.
They focus on what is immediate, practical and real, and live life as it is rather than trying to change the world.
They like logic and tend to pursue things in a clear sequence. At work, they will have a clear schedule and like to use their proven skills in tactical situations.
They may be seen as frivolous or short-sighted by Intuitors.

Intuiting=N
Intuitors process data more deeply than sensors and are happy to trust their subconscious and 'sixth sense', gut feel, intuition or whatever you want to call it.
They are good at spotting patterns and taking a high-level view, as opposed to digging into the detail.
They like ideas and inspiration and tend to have a focus on the future, where they will plan to change the world rather than continue to live in the imperfect present.
At work, they like to acquire new skills and working at the strategic level.
They may be seen as impractical, theoretical and lacking determination by Sensors

Thinking and Feeling in this context isnt just about thought and emotions but more about how we make decision through logic or through considering people

Thinking=T
Thinkers decide based primarily on logic, and when they do so, they consider a decision to be made. They tend to see the world in black and white and dislike fuzziness.
Perhaps because people are so variable, they focus on tangible things, seeking truth and use of clear rules.
At work, they are task-oriented, seek to create clear value. Interacting with them tends to brief and business-like.
They may be seen as cold and heartless by Feelers.

Feeling=F
Feelers decide based primarily through social considerations, listening to their heart and considering the feelings of others.
They see life as a human existence and material things as being subservient to this. They value harmony and use tact in their interactions with others.
At work, they are sociable and people-oriented and make many decisions based on values (more than value).
They may be seen as unreliable and emotional by Thinkers.

Judging and Perceiving in this context is not about how we evaluate things but about how we approach life: in a structured way or an open, flexible way.

Judging=J
Judgers approach life in a structured way, creating plans and organizing their world to achieve their goals and desired results in a predictable way.
They get their sense of control by taking charge of their environment and making choices early.
They are self-disciplined and decisive, and seek closure in decisions. When they ask for things they are specific and expect others to do as they say. They enjoy being experts.
At work, they decide quickly and clearly and work to get the job done.
Perceivers may see them as rigid and opinionated.

Perceiving=P
Perceivers perceive structure as being more limiting than enabling. They prefer to keep their choices open so they can cope with many problems that the know life will put in their way.
They get their sense of control by keeping their options open and making choices only when they are necessary.
They are generally curious and like to expand their knowledge, which they will freely acknowledge as being incomplete. They are tolerant of other people's differences and will adapt to fit into whatever the situation requires.
At work, they tend to avoid or put off decisions and like most the exploration of problems and situations.
Judgers may see them as aimless drifters. ]]> Grown Folks Matters BlueSerenity http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39752-what-your-personality-combination.html Male sexual health facts http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39740-male-sexual-health-facts.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 19:42:33 GMT ---Quote--- *Sex and sleep* According to Dr. Billy Goldberg, co-author of Why Do Men Fall Asleep...
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Sex and sleep
According to Dr. Billy Goldberg, co-author of Why Do Men Fall Asleep After Sex?, there is little direct evidence explaining why men fall asleep. However, the chemicals oxytocin, prolactin, gamma amino butyric acid (GABA) and other hormones all contribute to “that roll-over-and-snore feeling” because they facilitate sleep.

“A man’s body chemistry changes after orgasm. The biochemical prolactin is released, physically altering his body and making him very tired,” says Dr. David McKenzie, a sex therapist in Vancouver, Canada.

Further, exertion during sex and after climax depletes the muscles of energy-producing glycogen, which leads to sleepiness. Since men have more muscle mass than women, they’re generally sleepier after sex.

Men’s libido goes up and down
Think PMS is only for women? Think again. Your monthly peaks and valleys are triggered by changes in testosterone that affect your mood, libido, energy level, beard growth and sperm count.

According to research by naturopathic physician Dr. Marcus Laux, men have more energy, a greater sense of well being, lower body weight and less need for sleep during the peak of their cycle. The valleys bring apathy, indifference and the tendency to magnify small problems into big ones.

“If you keep track of your personal cycles, whether it’s shifts in energy levels, mood or sex drive, you can anticipate changes,” says Laux. “Then, you can take advantage of the times you’re at your prime and better cope when you’re not feeling your best.”

Your penis is a barometer of overall health
Dr. Mehmet Oz, co-author of You: The Owner’s Manual, calls it your “dipstick” because it reveals the health of your other body parts. The physical mechanisms that send blood to your brain, heart and kidneys also inflate your penis. If it’s not standing tall, you may have arterial problems.

“A man’s lack of interest in sex is a big red flag that something is out of balance. Up to 25 percent of men have a low-to-no sex drive,” says Dr. Laux. “It could be even higher, as men don't talk about low libido.”

The possible causes of restricted blood flow include diabetes, endocrine disorders, heart and vascular problems or kidney diseases. “But,” says Laux, “don't rule out fatigue, psychological factors, relationship issues, poor nutrition, insomnia or lack of exercise.”

Disrupted sleep decreases erections
If you’re struggling with obstructive sleep apnea (OSA), you’re at risk for sexual dysfunction. OSA is a sleep disorder that affects 18 million Americans—many of whom go undiagnosed—and causes sufferers to stop breathing dozens of times per hour.

OSA disrupts rapid-eye-movement (REM) sleep, which is when men routinely experience erections. Decreased REM sleep means fewer REM erections, which affects sexual health. “It’s possible that men need to experience REM erections in order to maintain optimal sexual functioning,” says Dr. Charles Atwood, associate director of the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center's Sleep Medicine Center.

“If you have erectile dysfunction, you should get tested for OSA,” he advises. “Men who are diagnosed and treated for OSA often see an improvement in sexual functioning.”

Eco-friendly transportation could damage your testicles
Whether you’re bicycling to reduce your carbon footprint, save money on gas or get fit, make sure you’re cushioned properly. Cycling doesn’t cause male infertility, but it can lead to testicular damage, impaired sperm functioning and erectile problems. Urological surgeon Vinod Nargund from St. Bartholomew’s and Homerton Hospitals in London found that mountain bikers are more affected than road cyclists.

Dr. Nargund lists the potential problems of prolonged cycling: abrasions, chafing, damaged hair follicles and bruising. Sweating may cause skin problems and a general soreness.

Symptoms to watch for include genital numbness, erection problems and skin irritations. To stay healthy, wear shorts with protective padding. Make sure your seat is also padded, and adjust its position so it doesn’t put pressure on your groin.

Varicocele can cause male infertility
Infertility affects one in six couples, and male factors contribute to at least half of all cases. According to the Center of Reproductive Medicine at Cornell University, the most common identifiable cause of male infertility is varicocele, or enlarged veins in the scrotum. Another possibility is a blockage in the reproductive tract.

Simply being older also affects your fertility. Recent research from the Eylau Centre for Assisted Reproduction in France shows a connection between men over age 35, lower pregnancy rates and higher miscarriage rates. Keep your sperm strong by eating nutritiously, exercising regularly and decreasing your stress level.

Big news
An average penis length of 5 erect and 3 flaccid inches is normal for men—that’s significantly smaller than what most men think is normal.

“Generally, every man [and woman] believes the ultimate in sexiness and masculinity is to have a larger-than-average penis,” says sexologist Dr. Trina Read. “The fact is, men with large penises often find it difficult to find a partner who is comfortable having intercourse and giving oral sex.”

During intercourse, penis size has little to do with partner satisfaction. Most of the sensitive nerve endings are concentrated close to a woman’s vaginal opening—which means a penis of any size can be highly pleasurable.

“What most women really want is technique,” says Dr. Read. The upside? A man who masters his technique in bed may get away with falling asleep right after sex.
]]> Grown Folks Matters BlueSerenity http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39740-male-sexual-health-facts.html We All have a story to tell http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39701-we-all-have-story-tell.html Fri, 13 Nov 2009 17:15:55 GMT the thread is based on the premise that everyone's story can be influencial...that we learn from each other and of course everyone's story has merit....so share some of your life's little stories or anecdotes that you believe helped shaped who you are or who you are not...those little things that always pop back up in your mind and take you back there either mentally or emotionally...or little things that you learned from observing those around you...little things that when combined makes YOU..
you can post them as they come to mind even in a couple of sentences...there is no wrong or right to anyone's story since it just IS...so the thread is not about others but about yourself...tell your story ]]> Grown Folks Matters BlueSerenity http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39701-we-all-have-story-tell.html Finding Your Photos Online http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39670-finding-your-photos-online.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 18:12:01 GMT ---Quote--- Worried about photo theft? See if your photos are posted on the Web. Recently, a...
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Worried about photo theft? See if your photos are posted on the Web.

Recently, a friend of mine congratulated me for selling one of my wildlife photos. When I asked him what he meant, he sent me a link to a site that was prominently using a shot I had taken of some wolves. The problem? I had never given the site owners permission to use my photo, which they had "borrowed" from my Flickr page. I asked them to remove the photo, and they did -- but not everyone out there is so reasonable. You can watermark your photos to prevent this sort of thing from happening. But is there any way to find your photos online to see they're being used inappropriately?
It turns out that there are a couple of ways to keep an eye on your photos.

Your photos are vulnerable
Before we go any further, though, allow me to emphasize that whenever you post a photo on the Internet, there's a potential for theft. There is no way to completely protect a photo from being used without your permission. Even if your Web page uses a special script to disable the right-click "Save picture as" command, a determined photo borrower can simply take a screen shot of the Web browser. The only way to absolutely secure your photos? Never share them online.

Reverse image search
Suppose you have posted some photos on a photo sharing site and you're curious to see if someone has absconded with them. What you need is a way to perform a reverse image search -- where a smart search engine looks for a photo by detecting identical content within the image itself, rather than keying on file names or metadata, which are easily changed.
That might sound like science fiction, and in fact it's pretty close. But I've found a Web site out there, TinEye, that can actually perform reverse images searches today.

To use TinEye, you can upload a photo from your computer or point the site to a Web page that already hosts the photo. TinEye then returns a list of sites using the same image.

TinEye is far from perfect. It often identifies photos that are similar to -- but not exactly the same as -- the source image. Worse, TinEye's database of photos represents only a fraction of what's available on the entire Internet -- so if you get zero results, that doesn't mean your photo isn't being repurposed out there somewhere.
]]> Grown Folks Matters BlueSerenity http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39670-finding-your-photos-online.html 2012 Prophecies Sparking Real Fears, Suicide Warnings http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39617-2012-prophecies-sparking-real-fears-suicide-warnings.html Tue, 10 Nov 2009 20:28:13 GMT this is amazing to me...i cant believe ppl are considering suicide and all the other foolishness... this is amazing to me...i cant believe ppl are considering suicide and all the other foolishness over this

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by Brian Handwerk for National Geographic News
It's almost the end of the world, according to purported Maya predictions, and the 2012 apocalypse business is booming.

Survival kits, documentaries, and nearly 200 books presenting the "real" 2012 story are all on offer. And you could probably surf the Web from now until Armaggedon—tentatively slated for December 21, 2012—and still see just a fraction of the Web sites and products devoted to the topic.

But amid all the hype—including a viral marketing campaign for 2012, the disaster movie opening Friday—some people are developing honest "end times" anxiety that has experts seriously concerned.

NASA's Ask an Astrobiologist Web site, for example, has received thousands of questions regarding the 2012 doomsday predictions—some of them disturbing, according to David Morrison, a senior scientist with the NASA Astrobiology Institute.

"A lot of [the submitters] are people who are genuinely frightened," said Morrison, who thinks movie marketers, authors, and others out to make a buck are feeding some of the fears.

"I've had two teenagers who were considering killing themselves, because they didn't want to be around when the world ends," he said. "Two women in the last two weeks said they were contemplating killing their children and themselves so they wouldn't have to suffer through the end of the world."

2012 Movie Just Entertainment

Part of the worry, Morrison says, is being fanned by a suite of Web sites created by 2012 distributor Sony Pictures Entertainment.

The sites appear to represent scientific organizations, press releases, and 2012 whistle-blowers all intent on telling the "truth" about our upcoming doom.

Now all the 2012 marketing sites display clear disclaimers that the contents are "Part of the 2012 Movie Experience."

But those labels weren't there from day one, adding to the suggestion that the doomsday scenarios might have some truth behind them, Morrison said.

Sony Pictures spokesperson Steve Elzer argues that it's clear the film's marketing materials are tied to the promotion of the movie.

"When moviegoers see trailers or visit Web sites linked to our film," he said, "they know this is an entertainment experience, just as those who see materials created for Transformers understand robot aliens have not really landed or those who attend Twilight: New Moon know vampires are not actually among us."

2012: Is This the Way the World Will End?

In general, fear over the 2012 doomsday prediction is just another example of a scenario that has been repeated over the centuries, said University of Wisconsin historian Paul Boyer.

Baptist preacher William Miller, for example, convinced as many as a hundred thousand Americans in the early 1800s that the second coming of Jesus Christ would happen in 1843. It didn't, much to the Millerites' "great disappointment."

And Hal Lindsey's 1970s national bestseller The Late, Great Planet Earth suggested that the end could come in the 1980s. We're still here and so is Lindsey, who has since revised his theories.

"The crucial date always seems to be within a decade or so of the present, so that you have a sense of imminence, that it's going to happen soon," said Boyer, author of When Time Shall Be No More: Prophecy Belief in Modern American Culture.

A healthy distrust for authority fuels the fire.

Conspiracy theorists often believe that world governments and those "in power" know all about some impending disaster but are doing nothing to save the rest of us.

Now, thanks to the Internet, such theories can gain traction quickly and spread more widely than ever before.

Yet something must account for the enduring appeal of an upcoming Armageddon. Perhaps it's knowing the future when others don't, or being one of the select few to solve impenetrable mysteries, Boyer said.

"For a lot of people I think it's almost kind of a parlor game. But there are also people who take it very seriously," he said.

"What strikes me is the total lack of historic awareness that people who get caught up in these things seem to exhibit. The most elementary look at history shows such a series of these episodes that are then proven false.

"Yet despite that, there always seems to be a market."

Maya 2012: Truth Better Than Fiction

Anthony Aveni, a Maya expert and archaeoastronomer at Colgate University in Hamilton, New York, has also seen the effects of 2012 hysteria firsthand.

"I got into an email dialogue with a high school student who was quite seriously concerned that the world was going to end," he said. "This person thought we were all going to die. That motivated me to write about it."

His book, The End of Time: The Maya Mystery of 2012, is one of several attempts by experts to dispel the myths of the Maya apocalypse and instead focus attention on the facts about the ancient culture.

"It's a teaching moment," Aveni said. "If we allow people to fear 2012 and miss a great opportunity to learn about the Maya and their amazing culture, then we're not doing our job."
]]> Grown Folks Matters BlueSerenity http://www.dancehallareaz.com/forum/grown-folks-matters/39617-2012-prophecies-sparking-real-fears-suicide-warnings.html