Is it just me??? - Page 4

Mz.Anonymous · 01-16-2008, 06:51 PM

Okay i recently had a conversation with my bf and some interesting things came out.He says that as his girl what he needs from me is to cook for him,clean for him and make sure he's taken care of(u know).Now as yall know this pissed me off cuz it sounds so sexist and I cant be with a sexist,chauvenistic man.Now i do know that as a wife cooking and cleaning is a responsibility but where is the line between is being just that or it being "your place".And what made it worst was when i asked him what he was supposed to do he told me it was to bring home the bacon and throw out the trash

Now Dhaz fam,please clarify for ur sista,is it just me or is this dude straight out of the 40s and 50s.

Mr. Marcus ™ · Mr. Marcus ™

whats wrong with a 'traditional' relationship ?

why do people (well, westerners) seem to think there is something wrong with traditional relationships. Maybe its also part of the cause why there is so much divorce and single people in the western world.

Spiderj86 · Spiderj86

Originally Posted by .-¤ Ç®ØöKëÐ ¤-.

whats wrong with a 'traditional' relationship ?

why do people (well, westerners) seem to think there is something wrong with traditional relationships. Maybe its also part of the cause why there is so much divorce and single people in the western world.

true.

i mean

i like staying home and doing nothing while i have a man go out and work his ass off for me.

i mean, who doesn't?

Jamaicangal1 · Jamaicangal1

Fellas dont get me wrong, I personally dont have a problem cooking and cleaning but thats not all a woman is there to do. I mean iz there really a problem with a man cookin for his girl?? plus I kno for a fact that I WILL NOT stop working to stay home an cook an clean for NO man...unless his rich....

spiffykleen · spiffykleen

(Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right?

But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt.

The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring.

Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place!

Spiderj86 · Spiderj86

Originally Posted by spiffykleen

(Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right?

But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt.

The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring.

Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place!

how come you fellas does be telling your girls all these things?

i does neva hear dem tings unno.

**HOTT*LIKE*FIRE** · **HOTT*LIKE*FIRE**

LOL, i heard that one before, everytime my bf steps outta line and we have an argument he says 'maybe if u cleaned, cooked and looked after me more i wouldnt have done it' bitch please i have a life too. if a guy wants all that then he has to be making you a lady of leisure first. by that i mean pay your bills, taking care of buisness and even making sure you dont have to work! how else is a modern woman meant to fit in all the daily chores cleaning up after his lame ass!!!! tell him if he wants a woman like dat go date his MOMMA lol - yeah i said it yo momma

**HOTT*LIKE*FIRE** · **HOTT*LIKE*FIRE**

p.s if u wanna piss him off tell him you're saving all of dat for your husband lol

agenteddie · agenteddie

my lord. drama

Mr. Marcus ™ · Mr. Marcus ™

Originally Posted by spiffykleen

(Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right?

But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt.

The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring.

Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place!

well said

Spiderj86 · Spiderj86

Originally Posted by .-¤ Ç®ØöKëÐ ¤-.

well said

and yet your face still ugly.

**HOTT*LIKE*FIRE** · **HOTT*LIKE*FIRE**

Originally Posted by agenteddie

my lord. drama

Yeah you're right about that one, some men dunno when they have it good!

user1 · user1

Originally Posted by **HOTT*LIKE*FIRE**

LOL, i heard that one before, everytime my bf steps outta line and we have an argument he says 'maybe if u cleaned, cooked and looked after me more i wouldnt have done it' bitch please i have a life too. if a guy wants all that then he has to be making you a lady of leisure first. by that i mean pay your bills, taking care of buisness and even making sure you dont have to work! how else is a modern woman meant to fit in all the daily chores cleaning up after his lame ass!!!! tell him if he wants a woman like dat go date his MOMMA lol - yeah i said it yo momma

THIS IS THE VERY BACKWARD ASS THINKIN SHIT THAT GOT BLACK MEN SEEKING OUT OTHER RACES FOR LOVE AND HARMONY....THIS STATEMENT IS HORRIBLE...IM SORRY...I KNOW PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO CAN MANAGE BOTH...

I FEEL SORRY FOR THE YOUNGER GENERATION...BECAUSE IF THIS IS THE MENTALITY THATS GOING AROUND...I FEAR MY SON WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT IS TOO KNOW REAL WOMEN BESIDES HIS MOTHER AND AUNTS...CAUSE THE QUALITY OF CHICS ..IS TAKING A NOSE DIVE FOR THE WORST

REAL TALK

BTW....DID U CALL YOUR MAN A BITCH.....OHHH LAWD....IS IT ME OR DOES ANYONE SEE SOMETHING WRONG WITH THIS WHOLE PICTURE BUT ME...

Shana B · Shana B

the younger generation

i consider myself pretty young so wud that include me

i like doing stuff for my man.....i don mind cookin him wat he wants, an waiting on him around the house

but i don think i wud do it full time....i don see myself as a housewife an i don tink i'll ever but i don mind bein a career woman and takin care of my man at the same time

Mr. Marcus ™ · Mr. Marcus ™

Originally Posted by BUSSA GUNFIRE

THIS IS THE VERY BACKWARD ASS THINKIN SHIT THAT GOT BLACK MEN SEEKING OUT OTHER RACES FOR LOVE AND HARMONY....THIS STATEMENT IS HORRIBLE...IM SORRY...I KNOW PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO CAN MANAGE BOTH...

I FEEL SORRY FOR THE YOUNGER GENERATION...BECAUSE IF THIS IS THE MENTALITY THATS GOING AROUND...I FEAR MY SON WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT IS TOO KNOW REAL WOMEN BESIDES HIS MOTHER AND AUNTS...CAUSE THE QUALITY OF CHICS ..IS TAKING A NOSE DIVE FOR THE WORST

REAL TALK

BTW....DID U CALL YOUR MAN A BITCH.....OHHH LAWD....IS IT ME OR DOES ANYONE SEE SOMETHING WRONG WITH THIS WHOLE PICTURE BUT ME...

i was going to say something about her post when i saw it before but i decided not too cause the women here might think i was bashing ... so i left it alone

user1 · user1

Originally Posted by .-¤ Ç®ØöKëÐ ¤-.

i was going to say something about her post when i saw it before but i decided not too cause the women here might think i was bashing ... so i left it alone

DONT BE AFRAID BROTHER...

THEY NEVER ARE WHEN THEY POST ABOUT US..

Spiderj86	post #47 01-28-2008, 10:27 AM
Dhaz Immigrant Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: brooklyn Street Cred : 3 Posts: 3,684 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 36	Originally Posted by .-¤ Ç®ØöKëÐ ¤-. whats wrong with a 'traditional' relationship ? why do people (well, westerners) seem to think there is something wrong with traditional relationships. Maybe its also part of the cause why there is so much divorce and single people in the western world. true. i mean i like staying home and doing nothing while i have a man go out and work his ass off for me. i mean, who doesn't?

spiffykleen	post #49 01-29-2008, 02:38 AM
Dhaz Immigrant Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: cameroon Street Cred : 1 Posts: 12 Dhaz Dollarz: 500	(Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right? But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt. The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring. Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place! Last edited by spiffykleen; 01-29-2008 at 03:17 AM.

Spiderj86	post #50 01-29-2008, 08:03 AM
Dhaz Immigrant Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: brooklyn Street Cred : 3 Posts: 3,684 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 36	Originally Posted by spiffykleen (Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right? But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt. The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring. Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place! how come you fellas does be telling your girls all these things? i does neva hear dem tings unno.

Mr. Marcus ™	post #54 01-29-2008, 11:32 AM
Mr. Marcus ™ Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: ¤Ç®ØöK£yÑ¤ Street Cred : 10 Posts: 7,136 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 19	Originally Posted by spiffykleen (Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right? But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt. The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring. Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place! well said

Spiderj86	post #55 01-29-2008, 12:20 PM
Dhaz Immigrant Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: brooklyn Street Cred : 3 Posts: 3,684 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 36	Originally Posted by .-¤ Ç®ØöKëÐ ¤-. well said and yet your face still ugly.

01-16-2008, 06:51 PM
Is it just me??? Okay i recently had a conversation with my bf and some interesting things came out.He says that as his girl what he needs from me is to cook for him,clean for him and make sure he's taken care of(u know).Now as yall know this pissed me off cuz it sounds so sexist and I cant be with a sexist,chauvenistic man.Now i do know that as a wife cooking and cleaning is a responsibility but where is the line between is being just that or it being "your place".And what made it worst was when i asked him what he was supposed to do he told me it was to bring home the bacon and throw out the trashNow Dhaz fam,please clarify for ur sista,is it just me or is this dude straight out of the 40s and 50s. __________________	About Poster By: Mz.Anonymous Join Date: May 2005 Networking Rating: None Add To Favorite Share Views: 1245

Mr. Marcus ™	post #46 01-28-2008, 10:02 AM
Mr. Marcus ™ Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: ¤Ç®ØöK£yÑ¤ Street Cred : 10 Posts: 7,136 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 19	whats wrong with a 'traditional' relationship ? why do people (well, westerners) seem to think there is something wrong with traditional relationships. Maybe its also part of the cause why there is so much divorce and single people in the western world.

Jamaicangal1	post #48 01-28-2008, 09:18 PM
Dhaz Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Bronx Street Cred : 1 Posts: 4,266 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 4	Fellas dont get me wrong, I personally dont have a problem cooking and cleaning but thats not all a woman is there to do. I mean iz there really a problem with a man cookin for his girl?? plus I kno for a fact that I WILL NOT stop working to stay home an cook an clean for NO man...unless his rich....

*HOTTLIKEFIRE*	post #51 01-29-2008, 09:22 AM
Disturbing The Peace Join Date: May 2007 Location: U.K Street Cred : 1 Posts: 21 Dhaz Dollarz: 500	LOL, i heard that one before, everytime my bf steps outta line and we have an argument he says 'maybe if u cleaned, cooked and looked after me more i wouldnt have done it' bitch please i have a life too. if a guy wants all that then he has to be making you a lady of leisure first. by that i mean pay your bills, taking care of buisness and even making sure you dont have to work! how else is a modern woman meant to fit in all the daily chores cleaning up after his lame ass!!!! tell him if he wants a woman like dat go date his MOMMA lol - yeah i said it yo momma

*HOTTLIKEFIRE*	post #52 01-29-2008, 09:23 AM
Disturbing The Peace Join Date: May 2007 Location: U.K Street Cred : 1 Posts: 21 Dhaz Dollarz: 500	p.s if u wanna piss him off tell him you're saving all of dat for your husband lol

agenteddie	post #53 01-29-2008, 11:05 AM
Dhaz Star Join Date: May 2006 Location: 3rd Music Lane, 11th Love street Street Cred : 2 Posts: 15,386 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 8	my lord. drama

*HOTTLIKEFIRE*	post #56 01-29-2008, 12:26 PM
Disturbing The Peace Join Date: May 2007 Location: U.K Street Cred : 1 Posts: 21 Dhaz Dollarz: 500	Originally Posted by agenteddie my lord. drama Yeah you're right about that one, some men dunno when they have it good!

user1	post #57 01-29-2008, 03:06 PM
Guest Street Cred : Posts: n/a Dhaz Dollarz:	Originally Posted by *HOTTLIKEFIRE* LOL, i heard that one before, everytime my bf steps outta line and we have an argument he says 'maybe if u cleaned, cooked and looked after me more i wouldnt have done it' bitch please i have a life too. if a guy wants all that then he has to be making you a lady of leisure first. by that i mean pay your bills, taking care of buisness and even making sure you dont have to work! how else is a modern woman meant to fit in all the daily chores cleaning up after his lame ass!!!! tell him if he wants a woman like dat go date his MOMMA lol - yeah i said it yo momma THIS IS THE VERY BACKWARD ASS THINKIN SHIT THAT GOT BLACK MEN SEEKING OUT OTHER RACES FOR LOVE AND HARMONY....THIS STATEMENT IS HORRIBLE...IM SORRY...I KNOW PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO CAN MANAGE BOTH... I FEEL SORRY FOR THE YOUNGER GENERATION...BECAUSE IF THIS IS THE MENTALITY THATS GOING AROUND...I FEAR MY SON WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT IS TOO KNOW REAL WOMEN BESIDES HIS MOTHER AND AUNTS...CAUSE THE QUALITY OF CHICS ..IS TAKING A NOSE DIVE FOR THE WORST REAL TALK BTW....DID U CALL YOUR MAN A BITCH.....OHHH LAWD....IS IT ME OR DOES ANYONE SEE SOMETHING WRONG WITH THIS WHOLE PICTURE BUT ME... Last edited by user1; 01-29-2008 at 03:10 PM.

Shana B	post #58 01-29-2008, 03:12 PM
Dhaz Lone Ranger Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: In My Own Lil Worl Street Cred : 7 Posts: 14,093 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 43	the younger generation i consider myself pretty young so wud that include me i like doing stuff for my man.....i don mind cookin him wat he wants, an waiting on him around the house but i don think i wud do it full time....i don see myself as a housewife an i don tink i'll ever but i don mind bein a career woman and takin care of my man at the same time

Mr. Marcus ™	post #59 01-29-2008, 03:37 PM
Mr. Marcus ™ Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: ¤Ç®ØöK£yÑ¤ Street Cred : 10 Posts: 7,136 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 19	Originally Posted by BUSSA GUNFIRE THIS IS THE VERY BACKWARD ASS THINKIN SHIT THAT GOT BLACK MEN SEEKING OUT OTHER RACES FOR LOVE AND HARMONY....THIS STATEMENT IS HORRIBLE...IM SORRY...I KNOW PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO CAN MANAGE BOTH... I FEEL SORRY FOR THE YOUNGER GENERATION...BECAUSE IF THIS IS THE MENTALITY THATS GOING AROUND...I FEAR MY SON WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT IS TOO KNOW REAL WOMEN BESIDES HIS MOTHER AND AUNTS...CAUSE THE QUALITY OF CHICS ..IS TAKING A NOSE DIVE FOR THE WORST REAL TALK BTW....DID U CALL YOUR MAN A BITCH.....OHHH LAWD....IS IT ME OR DOES ANYONE SEE SOMETHING WRONG WITH THIS WHOLE PICTURE BUT ME... i was going to say something about her post when i saw it before but i decided not too cause the women here might think i was bashing ... so i left it alone

user1	post #60 01-29-2008, 03:39 PM
Guest Street Cred : Posts: n/a Dhaz Dollarz:	Originally Posted by .-¤ Ç®ØöKëÐ ¤-. i was going to say something about her post when i saw it before but i decided not too cause the women here might think i was bashing ... so i left it alone DONT BE AFRAID BROTHER... THEY NEVER ARE WHEN THEY POST ABOUT US..

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