Old 01-16-2008, 06:51 PM  
Is it just me???

Okay i recently had a conversation with my bf and some interesting things came out.He says that as his girl what he needs from me is to cook for him,clean for him and make sure he's taken care of(u know).Now as yall know this pissed me off cuz it sounds so sexist and I cant be with a sexist,chauvenistic man.Now i do know that as a wife cooking and cleaning is a responsibility but where is the line between is being just that or it being "your place".And what made it worst was when i asked him what he was supposed to do he told me it was to bring home the bacon and throw out the trashNow Dhaz fam,please clarify for ur sista,is it just me or is this dude straight out of the 40s and 50s.

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whats wrong with a 'traditional' relationship ?

why do people (well, westerners) seem to think there is something wrong with traditional relationships. Maybe its also part of the cause why there is so much divorce and single people in the western world.
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Originally Posted by .-¤ Ç®ØöKëÐ ¤-. View Post
whats wrong with a 'traditional' relationship ?

why do people (well, westerners) seem to think there is something wrong with traditional relationships. Maybe its also part of the cause why there is so much divorce and single people in the western world.

true.

i mean


i like staying home and doing nothing while i have a man go out and work his ass off for me.

i mean, who doesn't?
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Fellas dont get me wrong, I personally dont have a problem cooking and cleaning but thats not all a woman is there to do. I mean iz there really a problem with a man cookin for his girl?? plus I kno for a fact that I WILL NOT stop working to stay home an cook an clean for NO man...unless his rich....
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(Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right?

But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt.

The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring.

Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place!

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Originally Posted by spiffykleen View Post
(Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right?

But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt.

The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring.

Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place!

how come you fellas does be telling your girls all these things?

i does neva hear dem tings unno.
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LOL, i heard that one before, everytime my bf steps outta line and we have an argument he says 'maybe if u cleaned, cooked and looked after me more i wouldnt have done it' bitch please i have a life too. if a guy wants all that then he has to be making you a lady of leisure first. by that i mean pay your bills, taking care of buisness and even making sure you dont have to work! how else is a modern woman meant to fit in all the daily chores cleaning up after his lame ass!!!! tell him if he wants a woman like dat go date his MOMMA lol - yeah i said it yo momma
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p.s if u wanna piss him off tell him you're saving all of dat for your husband lol
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Originally Posted by spiffykleen View Post
(Goes back to read first post again)...Ok Mz A, but you'd have to admit that this thread is a whole lot more interesting with the misconception, right?

But anyway, it's two things. I often tell my wife that her strength lies in her ability to be a woman, feminine, use her feminine wiles to get what she wants from the man. In certain terms, make your man feel like a man, and for men, make your woman feel like a lady. Yeah sure, we've got different classes of men (and likewise ladies) and I think the ideal is to know your man or belt.

The way I see it, when a man (or woman) starts to itemize requirements, it usually means he (or she) isn't getting his fulfillment. It doesn't mean that if you start cooking or cleaning, it's going to change his discontentment, but it's usually a start. It's not necessarily being wifey without a ring.

Then again, a number of men from our generation grew up with the only feminine role model in our lives, cooking, cleaning (and working too!). Pops did some stuff too, but I barely recall him in the kitchen (or taking out the trash for that matter). So our ideas of a "good wifey" revolve around that stereotype. And even though the world has changed so much, marriage still is as primal an emotion as sex. Every man (or woman) in a relationship has at one time or the other, looked at his girl (or man) and said, "can I spend the rest of my life with this one?". And that's possibly why most relationships end in the first place!
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Originally Posted by .-¤ Ç®ØöKëÐ ¤-. View Post
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Originally Posted by agenteddie View Post
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Yeah you're right about that one, some men dunno when they have it good!
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LOL, i heard that one before, everytime my bf steps outta line and we have an argument he says 'maybe if u cleaned, cooked and looked after me more i wouldnt have done it' bitch please i have a life too. if a guy wants all that then he has to be making you a lady of leisure first. by that i mean pay your bills, taking care of buisness and even making sure you dont have to work! how else is a modern woman meant to fit in all the daily chores cleaning up after his lame ass!!!! tell him if he wants a woman like dat go date his MOMMA lol - yeah i said it yo momma
THIS IS THE VERY BACKWARD ASS THINKIN SHIT THAT GOT BLACK MEN SEEKING OUT OTHER RACES FOR LOVE AND HARMONY....THIS STATEMENT IS HORRIBLE...IM SORRY...I KNOW PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO CAN MANAGE BOTH...

I FEEL SORRY FOR THE YOUNGER GENERATION...BECAUSE IF THIS IS THE MENTALITY THATS GOING AROUND...I FEAR MY SON WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT IS TOO KNOW REAL WOMEN BESIDES HIS MOTHER AND AUNTS...CAUSE THE QUALITY OF CHICS ..IS TAKING A NOSE DIVE FOR THE WORST

REAL TALK

BTW....DID U CALL YOUR MAN A BITCH.....OHHH LAWD....IS IT ME OR DOES ANYONE SEE SOMETHING WRONG WITH THIS WHOLE PICTURE BUT ME...

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the younger generation

i consider myself pretty young so wud that include me


i like doing stuff for my man.....i don mind cookin him wat he wants, an waiting on him around the house but i don think i wud do it full time....i don see myself as a housewife an i don tink i'll ever but i don mind bein a career woman and takin care of my man at the same time
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Originally Posted by BUSSA GUNFIRE View Post
THIS IS THE VERY BACKWARD ASS THINKIN SHIT THAT GOT BLACK MEN SEEKING OUT OTHER RACES FOR LOVE AND HARMONY....THIS STATEMENT IS HORRIBLE...IM SORRY...I KNOW PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO CAN MANAGE BOTH...

I FEEL SORRY FOR THE YOUNGER GENERATION...BECAUSE IF THIS IS THE MENTALITY THATS GOING AROUND...I FEAR MY SON WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT IS TOO KNOW REAL WOMEN BESIDES HIS MOTHER AND AUNTS...CAUSE THE QUALITY OF CHICS ..IS TAKING A NOSE DIVE FOR THE WORST

REAL TALK

BTW....DID U CALL YOUR MAN A BITCH.....OHHH LAWD....IS IT ME OR DOES ANYONE SEE SOMETHING WRONG WITH THIS WHOLE PICTURE BUT ME...


i was going to say something about her post when i saw it before but i decided not too cause the women here might think i was bashing ... so i left it alone
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i was going to say something about her post when i saw it before but i decided not too cause the women here might think i was bashing ... so i left it alone
DONT BE AFRAID BROTHER...

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