[Mz K]

This is an article that I've read in essence magazine and i thought it was important enough for everyone as i'm sure that situation probably already hit or will hit more people.

Here's a situation they painted, this lady and Husband were both making 140, 000$ together with 2 kids, the lady lost her job so only the man is working, making about 50 ,000$. Because of that they had fewer options for relaxing and reconnecting with each other. Even in good economy, money is a leading cause of relationship tension. They say 39% of essence magazine's readers said their dating lives have been affected by the recession.

The bad economy has soured many a good partnership. Here are few ways to manage and stop the blowups and blame games for good.

According to a 2009 ninternational survey by Paypal, 43% of US couples which is almost a third of all couples said the recession has fueled more arguments mostly about money, chores. First advice

1. Don't wait until you are head over heels in debt", talk about your financial concern rather sooner then later.

2. To recession Proof your relationship, they say to set smart goals : Specific, measurable,attainable,realistic and time-oriented. "Whether you're a committed couple just moving in together or a long-married duo with a mortgage, two kids and a gold retriever, there are financial fixes you can make as well as emotional lifelines to take a hold of the ensure that your relationship and finances not only survive but thrive.

3. Come Clean about your finances, being honest about how much you owe whether new or old bills don't be afraid and speak about it.

4. Maintain Togetherness : There's also a bigger challenge, such as finding a few moment for couple time. "Especially now, you need to take time out to enjoy each other's company, if you don't have funds to go out, go for a hike or a jog together, or arrage a picnic in the park. Realize that you and your partner are a team in a facing this rough economy.

5. Get The Kids On board.
If there's tension in the house, kids feel it."Let them know you'll always take care of their needs,but there might not be funds for another pair of sneakers of mp3 player. Be honest with your kids.

6. Keep your emotions in check.
The next time he runs and errand and comes back with a 1500 flat screen tv or vice versa, Let the emotional temperature get back to normal. Don't allow the toxic brew of guilt and shame to break your bond. If things gets to the boiling point, call a time out just like you would do for kids.