[Mz K]

“Popping” little Tommy on the hand as an infant or toddler could lead to long-term aggression and learning difficulties during their development, according to a study performed by Center for Child and Family Policy at Duke University.

According to a story written about the report on CNN.com, the lead researcher for the project theorizes that infants and toddlers “just don’t understand enough about right or wrong or punishment to benefit from being spanked.”

The report states children who are spanked as one-year-olds tend to show more anger and aggression at age two and are behind in “thinking skills” at age three.

The report suggest there is a socioeconomic component to spanking.
Researchers claim African-American children are spanked “significantly more frequently than those from white and Mexican-American families.” Parents who also live in the south and/or identify as Conservative Christians also spank their children at a higher rate.
Poor people and single mothers are also more prone to spank, said researchers.

I do believe at 1-2-3-4-5 years old spanking is useless but once you reach 6-7 i firmly believe that you need to smack them them back to earth every once in a while (not literally)... On another hand i also believe hitting a toddler's hand when he's touching something he shouldn't...

What's your take?

[gifted chick]

LIES... way i see it.. its better to let the kid know earlier the proper way to behave... maybe not "spank" a one year old but some form of discipline... therefore less chance of having one of those rude toddlers... (i guess u can tell i hate rude kids..)

[Mz K]

who loves them?

[Appletondon]

I believe in disciplining a child from early wheather it be spanking or whateva but they have to learn from jump because once they get older they gon think they can do anything without consequences but I also believe u should tell them why u beat them as well so they understand ur not just hitting them just for the hell of it thats why these damn kids so rotten today no form of discipline and they quick to call DCF on you its like da damn kids runnin households nowadays

[gifted chick]

Originally Posted by Mz K

who loves them?

man.. sometimes i feel fi beat them myself ... maybe its cause my mom didnt play and i was a "quiet" kid.. but thats like one of my biggest pet peeves.. a rude kid

[Mr. Marcus ™]

Spanking works for some, not all.

... It never worked for me ... of course it hurt and it stopped me from doing it for a lil while but i have always had a "wicked" personality even since i was little.

You beat me, i get over it eventually and then do it again just out of spite. I'de keep doing it too until you get the point that beating me isnt going to break me.

I remember this one time when i was like 7 years old, my dad told me to clean my room before he comes home ... i didnt ... i got beat ... cried ... plotted ... fugged up the room the next day out of spite ... he beat me again ... i cried ... plotted ... fugged up HIS room for spite ....

... i was just a terror. I guess beatings only work on impressionable children. From a young age i always had a "do what i want" attitude.

When i got older (probably 10-12 years old) I used to laugh at them when they hit me ... so they would hit me harder ... it hurt ... but i was determined to get under their skin. Eventually they turned to other punishments like taking away games or not letting me go outside to play with friends, etc.

Memories

[Jessme2]

Spanking to me is on the bottom only...that is what God put that extra fatty tissue there for.

I have to say that I cannot stand to watch any of those nanny 911 type shows because the first thing I want to do to the little brats on those shows is spank the holy hell out of them!!! Time out, my eye!

[Mr. Marcus ™]

shyyyyt ...

you should have grown up in the Caribbean ... you get lix with anything they can get their hands on.

I got beat with pot spoons, extension cords, slippers, wiffleball bats .... @ spanking bottoms only

[Jessme2]

There was an exception to that, and that was when I was so far pregnant with my son that I couldn't hardly bend or spank my little girl, so used the belt on her once..she had run out in traffic, and scared the daylights out of me! But ever since then, all I would need to do was threaten to use "black beauty" and she would straighten up for the most part, and I think my son got that out of osmosis, lol!

Edit: and I had a great-aunt that was a master at shoe throwing..if she had been the one to throw it at dubya, you can bet she wouldn't have missed, lolol!

[Mz K]

LOL memories shoe throwing, belt oh name it i got it!

but using a different name for the belt cause i hate how my son will go in public when someone talks to him just decides to talk about the spanking he got last time with a belt

luckily they look at him with a puzzle face acause he calls it "seat" belt

[GhostStar]

So...beating ur child makes him/her angry &/or dysfunctional?

just don’t understand enough about right or wrong or punishment to benefit from being spanked.

This is why you teach them the differnce between right and wrong, its not JUST about correction but the explanation. All children growing up need to know that they are accountable for their actions regardless if its good or bad.

lol @ "black beauty"... my dad had a body building belt that just looking @ it as a kid you'd wanna do right all year round, still got my share of licks (spanking according to this article) with just about everything that came to hand at the time including the damn belt..

[BlueSerenity]

good lord...I hardly ever got spanked/beaten...actually think the few times i got spanked by my mom was between the age of 10-12...and that was mostly for talking back..lol...i can only think of my dad giving me a slap across the face twice in my life...the first was for talking back to my mom and the other was a boy thing...lol...my parents were the talking type meaning the would actually sit me down and discuss whatever the issue was...most times i was told to think and figure out why i did what i did and pretty much give my side...it didnt change the fact that there would be some form of consequence..but there was also the chance that if could clearly explain my side that i would get off with a much lighter punishment..lol...to be honest it made me respect my parents more because i felt that they respected me and were for the most part fair...and although i would get mad at them deep down i knew that most times they were fair...it pains me to see ppl beating kids especially little ones...i know that some kids do misbehave and i dont know what the answer is but i cant see myself picking up a belt or anything else and hitting my child with it...spank on the bottom when they are younger to set the guidelines yes but after your child is able to reason then you should be able to sit and talk to them..but being honest with them..not lying to them or acting like since you are mom or dad you are this super person and therefore you just talk down to them...and you have to be consistent..cant discipline about something today then dont do it tomorrow because you are caught up in your own thing and dont want to be bothered... kids are smart and know when they can get away with stuff because you are not being consistent...anyway..everyone has their own ways of doing things but many ppl think they just spanking their kids when in fact its borderline abuse...what are mental emotional results from that..I dont know...but im sure something is left...its funny though i babysat for some so called bad kids and trust me they didnt act up with me. they knew when i said stop i meant it....i do not like ill mannered rude kids...and i dont know what the future holds but i can only do what i know work until it doesnt work anymore...

[BlueSerenity]

i asked my mom what made her decide on her style of disciplining for us...especially since i know she was really spanked/beaten as a child...and she told me that she wanted to teach us right from wrong,what was acceptable from whats wasnt acceptable but that she didnt want to break our spirit...she wanted to find ways to make us strong yet caring, thinking women...she said that as parents its hard to balance disciplining for your kids since no one knows for sure exactly what will work or wont work but when do it out of love not anger or shame then u can admit when u are making a mistake and rectify it for the sake of your child...i swear i love and admire this woman so much...if im ever half the mother she is i will be happy...

[killa]

I can see where they're coming from with this one, it males alot of sense when you think about it (takes serious notes) it's just so hard when the seed of chucky is unleashed in the little terrors and you wanna smack em and make their heads spin around like beetle juice did
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[Mz K]

i take it that you're chucky uh?