Black Women On Black Women Hate

Mz K · 09-22-2009, 06:55 PM

It's no secret to anyone that some of us (black women) tend to hate on one another for no apparent reason. I'm sure you've meet these girls walking, high class, perfect hair, perfect body, nice smile when you look at them give you the dirtiest look that if it could kill you would be dead. At first I thought it was something from "high school" but growing up i realize that even now at 25 years old some even carry it up to their golden years.

Here's what one black woman had to say about that.

"As a black woman who is a leader on my job, a minister in my church and an influence to my children. I am often complimented on my inner and outer beauty. However, I often encounter the sidewas looks and glaces of other Black women who seem to mean me no good. It has always been a concert of mine, how we treat one another, more so in the upsoken nuances, snicker and whispers heard of in the distance. We are our sister's keeper and if we fail to bring life to our relationships, we automatically sow death. I choose not to make that my legacy."

Some blame this on the slavery mentallity, that it we still have the self-hating in us.

Why do we hate is the big question? Insecurity? tv shows only showing that black women can't be friends?
Reality show doesn't help either, look at Flavor of love, For the love of Ray J, Charm school who was set to be positive but yet the black women in the show had to make fools out of themselves. Another best example "Real Housewives of Atlanta". For those who never heard of just google or youtube it you'll be amazed. Even with positivity like Tyra banks who some would say, she's a sell out anyway, it seems the Girl on Girl fight more appealing to tv viewers or to Men as well.

Another woman said : I think a lot of the discord between us goes back to the self fulfilling aspects of seeing images of ourselves depicted as vipers, as back stabbers, as that "b!tch".

What should you do? some studies claim that if you spend more time with each other, reach out the healthier and happier we would be and longer live.

An excerpt from "The sister accord & Why it's important now :

Be Supportive of your dreams and aspirations
Be honest and truthful
Be forgiving
Be loving and kind
Be thoughtful with my words-ensuring that our every encounter and conversation is uplifting
remain loyal and faithful to our friendship
remain your shelter in the time of storms - your confidante
refrain from judging
refrain from negative thoughts and words about you
Because you are my sister, the time is now-our children are depending on us. We have so much work to do.

After reading this. What do you guys/girls believe? Why do we hate on each other? Do Men do it too?

Tai · Tai

Where im frm everyones like tht, whether you''re black, white, indian, hispanic, male or female ... to be honest the race where i haven't seen this kinda behavior is with Oriental Asians. . . ... for the most part.

But back to the black at hand, Most of us judge shit, all of us judge to some extent. We can tell from the second we make eye contact if we are neutral or if we dislike someone. Not to say that those split second judgments cannot change within minutes, it's just something we all do, some of us are better hiding it than others and some us just don't plain care if the person can see what we think of them on our faces. Thats just how ppl are.

It's not even safe to say it's a slavery mentality...

To be honest, no we can't all get along, no we can't all be friends, the world wasn't built like that, we weren't programmed like that. It's a survival tactic really, you know the meek and weak puff up themselves to scare off predators. Like one of those 'only the strong will survive' things. Number one reason I don't roll with bitches: all the hate. Even if you an them cool, they'll hate on someone else and tell you about it... them will look liek you and them are hating on ppl... which causes needless, endless, unnecessary drama.

Mz K · Mz K

I agree it MAY be in all nation, we're not talking abou everyone getting along but it's the whole thing that gets dragged with it. The stereotype, just at work last time someone told me hey for a black girl you sure get along with everyone?

Yet there are other asian, Indian and white but no the "black" one got stereotype. It seems to be more showcased amoung US? Yes we all judge but perhaps toning it down might help? I swear at time i just rather pump up the volume to the max and walk eye straight before someone starts talkinga bout me...

I think this is what we talking about, these girls you will walk in the mall and that's all they do...? You know?

liltsangie · liltsangie

why are women so weird at times?????

i still love you all but damn!!!

BlueSerenity · BlueSerenity

To be honest with you I don’t understand it and dont know where it comes from...but one of the things I have noticed is that some ppl..(men and women)… have this childish mentality that ppl are jealous of them or want they have or that people are talking about them… who the hell cares...i don’t give a damn what anyone has…I don’t know what that person sacrificed to get what they have…for all I know they sacrificed their happiness, or their family or even someone’s life..i don’t know and I don’t care…but what I do know is that I’m about doing for myself and my fam..making sure we are living comfortably while understanding that our happiness come from having each other and not all the things we possess…I can’t waste time worrying about what ppl might or might not be saying about me…if someone wants to look let them look..if someone wants to talk let them talk…so what…why women waste time on silliness like that...life is short…life is a gift…take care of yourself, be kind to yourself…enjoy your family and friends…treat people with respect if nothing else just for the simple fact that they are human beings…wake up each day knowing that u have another opportunity to rectify mistakes made in your past, to enjoy your present and to plan for your future if you are doing that then trust me there wont be any time left for the pettiness...
Look, one thing I know for sure as a human being and as a woman and that is that when I step out of my house I will be carrying myself in a positive, dignified manner...i know I will be looking my best and I know there will be a smile on my face because that is who I am…I don’t worry about who likes or dislikes it…I’m still going to treat them like I do everyone else, with common courtesy and with a smile on my face…pettiness and drama disrupts my peace of mind….and I can’t have that, so if someone tries to bring it to me i make sure to keep it at a distance…still treat them with courtesy but not allowing them to bring the foolishness my way...
sometimes it seems as though ppl get older but they don’t grow up….so we have a whole bunch of adult/toddlers running around the place…at some point we have to say enough is enough…

09-22-2009, 06:55 PM	#1
Black Women On Black Women Hate It's no secret to anyone that some of us (black women) tend to hate on one another for no apparent reason. I'm sure you've meet these girls walking, high class, perfect hair, perfect body, nice smile when you look at them give you the dirtiest look that if it could kill you would be dead. At first I thought it was something from "high school" but growing up i realize that even now at 25 years old some even carry it up to their golden years. Here's what one black woman had to say about that. "As a black woman who is a leader on my job, a minister in my church and an influence to my children. I am often complimented on my inner and outer beauty. However, I often encounter the sidewas looks and glaces of other Black women who seem to mean me no good. It has always been a concert of mine, how we treat one another, more so in the upsoken nuances, snicker and whispers heard of in the distance. We are our sister's keeper and if we fail to bring life to our relationships, we automatically sow death. I choose not to make that my legacy." Some blame this on the slavery mentallity, that it we still have the self-hating in us. Why do we hate is the big question? Insecurity? tv shows only showing that black women can't be friends? Reality show doesn't help either, look at Flavor of love, For the love of Ray J, Charm school who was set to be positive but yet the black women in the show had to make fools out of themselves. Another best example "Real Housewives of Atlanta". For those who never heard of just google or youtube it you'll be amazed. Even with positivity like Tyra banks who some would say, she's a sell out anyway, it seems the Girl on Girl fight more appealing to tv viewers or to Men as well. Another woman said : I think a lot of the discord between us goes back to the self fulfilling aspects of seeing images of ourselves depicted as vipers, as back stabbers, as that "b!tch". What should you do? some studies claim that if you spend more time with each other, reach out the healthier and happier we would be and longer live. An excerpt from "The sister accord & Why it's important now : Be Supportive of your dreams and aspirations Be honest and truthful Be forgiving Be loving and kind Be thoughtful with my words-ensuring that our every encounter and conversation is uplifting remain loyal and faithful to our friendship remain your shelter in the time of storms - your confidante refrain from judging refrain from negative thoughts and words about you Because you are my sister, the time is now-our children are depending on us. We have so much work to do. After reading this. What do you guys/girls believe? Why do we hate on each other? Do Men do it too? __________________	About Poster By: Mz K Join Date: Jul 2003 Networking Rating: None Add To Favorite Share Views: 105

Tai	post #2 09-22-2009, 10:38 PM
Dhaz Immigrant Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: TDOT Street Cred : 1 Posts: 29 Dhaz Dollarz: 500	Ha Where im frm everyones like tht, whether you''re black, white, indian, hispanic, male or female ... to be honest the race where i haven't seen this kinda behavior is with Oriental Asians. . . ... for the most part. But back to the black at hand, Most of us judge shit, all of us judge to some extent. We can tell from the second we make eye contact if we are neutral or if we dislike someone. Not to say that those split second judgments cannot change within minutes, it's just something we all do, some of us are better hiding it than others and some us just don't plain care if the person can see what we think of them on our faces. Thats just how ppl are. It's not even safe to say it's a slavery mentality... To be honest, no we can't all get along, no we can't all be friends, the world wasn't built like that, we weren't programmed like that. It's a survival tactic really, you know the meek and weak puff up themselves to scare off predators. Like one of those 'only the strong will survive' things. Number one reason I don't roll with bitches: all the hate. Even if you an them cool, they'll hate on someone else and tell you about it... them will look liek you and them are hating on ppl... which causes needless, endless, unnecessary drama. Last edited by Tai; 09-22-2009 at 10:55 PM. Reason: After some thought...

Mz K	post #3 09-22-2009, 11:35 PM
Dark Phoenix Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Can/usa Street Cred : 28 Posts: 40,808 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 42	I agree it MAY be in all nation, we're not talking abou everyone getting along but it's the whole thing that gets dragged with it. The stereotype, just at work last time someone told me hey for a black girl you sure get along with everyone? Yet there are other asian, Indian and white but no the "black" one got stereotype. It seems to be more showcased amoung US? Yes we all judge but perhaps toning it down might help? I swear at time i just rather pump up the volume to the max and walk eye straight before someone starts talkinga bout me... I think this is what we talking about, these girls you will walk in the mall and that's all they do...? You know? Parting Ways Is All We Know Of Heaven And All We Need Of Hell

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liltsangie	post #4 09-23-2009, 06:38 AM
Check Your E-mail It Bounced Join Date: May 2007 Location: world wide web Street Cred : Posts: 1,444 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 14	why are women so weird at times????? i still love you all but damn!!!

BlueSerenity	post #5 09-23-2009, 10:23 AM
Lyrical Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Dhaz Street Cred : 22 Posts: 19,442 Dhaz Dollarz: 500 Gifts: 72	To be honest with you I don’t understand it and dont know where it comes from...but one of the things I have noticed is that some ppl..(men and women)… have this childish mentality that ppl are jealous of them or want they have or that people are talking about them… who the hell cares...i don’t give a damn what anyone has…I don’t know what that person sacrificed to get what they have…for all I know they sacrificed their happiness, or their family or even someone’s life..i don’t know and I don’t care…but what I do know is that I’m about doing for myself and my fam..making sure we are living comfortably while understanding that our happiness come from having each other and not all the things we possess…I can’t waste time worrying about what ppl might or might not be saying about me…if someone wants to look let them look..if someone wants to talk let them talk…so what…why women waste time on silliness like that...life is short…life is a gift…take care of yourself, be kind to yourself…enjoy your family and friends…treat people with respect if nothing else just for the simple fact that they are human beings…wake up each day knowing that u have another opportunity to rectify mistakes made in your past, to enjoy your present and to plan for your future if you are doing that then trust me there wont be any time left for the pettiness... Look, one thing I know for sure as a human being and as a woman and that is that when I step out of my house I will be carrying myself in a positive, dignified manner...i know I will be looking my best and I know there will be a smile on my face because that is who I am…I don’t worry about who likes or dislikes it…I’m still going to treat them like I do everyone else, with common courtesy and with a smile on my face…pettiness and drama disrupts my peace of mind….and I can’t have that, so if someone tries to bring it to me i make sure to keep it at a distance…still treat them with courtesy but not allowing them to bring the foolishness my way... sometimes it seems as though ppl get older but they don’t grow up….so we have a whole bunch of adult/toddlers running around the place…at some point we have to say enough is enough…