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10-21-2009, 02:50 PM |
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Lyrical
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Making Assumptions
how do you react when people make assumptions about you...whether it's assumptions based on your ethnicity or lifestyle or gender or just who you are as a person...do you just laugh and ignore it...do you take offense and blow up, or do you see it as an opportunity to clarify something that might be based on ignorance...
also,are the assumptions made about you mostly positive or negative in tone.... |
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10-21-2009, 02:53 PM |
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Lyrical
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Originally Posted by Mz K
 ...im going to "assume" that you would blow up.....
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10-21-2009, 03:24 PM |
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Part Time Dhaz Addict
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For all assumptions outside of the racist ones (which i hear on occasion) I pretty much laugh, for those whose ignorance show even the more by their expressed assumptions (verbally & physically) I shake my head and go on my way... I'd say most of my assumptions tho are neutral. Usually either: I'm shy or I eat chicken
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10-21-2009, 04:18 PM |
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Dhaz BattleDome HypeGirl
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hmmm i'm goin through one now.
i blew up and now i'm calm.. whatever happens happens.. i'm goin with the flow |
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10-21-2009, 05:16 PM |
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Lyrical
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the thought for the thread came about because this person overheard me talking on the phone in spanish..and said that she knew i was latin but it was the first time she had heard me speaking spanish so she thought i was one of "those people" who were ashamed of their heritage..then she says also because u seem to hang out with ppl from "other" cultures...to be honest..i almost verbally shredded her..but i took a deep breath and instead said that it made no sense for me to speak spanish here since none of them would understand..secondly if she knew anything about me she would know that my love for history and cultures is inherent in who i am as a person...me embracing someone elses culture is in no way denying my own..on the contrary it is because i love and respect my own so much that i can appreciate and respect that of others...
i was so mad but i tend to look very calm the angrier i get...she doesnt know how close she came to being cussed out....but its always amazing the assumptions ppl make...they dont know anything about you but automatically think something negative...  |
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10-21-2009, 06:59 PM |
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Dark Phoenix
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Originally Posted by BlueSerenity
very good guess lol
I'm working on changing that way...but my entire life ppl have been negative to me and to shield myself i've became agressive, told myself if they are afraid of me then they wouldn't DARE say nothing...it did work and that mentality stuck to my adult years. I'm trying to be a little bit more careless....not easy |
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10-21-2009, 08:44 PM |
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Dhaz Supreme
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Originally Posted by BlueSerenity
From your description I can tell her ignorance is at a all time high. Glad you put her in her place
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10-22-2009, 11:11 AM |
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Lyrical
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for the most part i laugh and ignore silly assumptions...depending on my mood or depending on the person its coming from i might clarify it in a nice way or just little humorous one liner...but if i know its coming from a negative place or if there is some malicious intent behind what the person is doing then i might just be bit harsher and more malicious in my reply...after all being nice does not mean being a push-over...
ive come across many ppl who made assumptions based on my ethincity....and funnier ones based on my gender...how i react to them is usually determined by the mood im in, where the person its coming from, the severity of the assumption and if there is malicious intent...i have a bad habit of not taking most assumptions seriously though...especially the silly ones based on ethnic or gender stereotypes...actually tend to find them funny and therefore replying to them in a way that might be seen as ridiculing the person...that is something i have to work on...because that doesnt help with fixing the problem...might make it worse because no one likes to be ridiculed.. i think when ppl make certain assumptions they actually underestimate the other person which automatically puts that person in a position of strength.. |
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10-22-2009, 12:02 PM |
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Mr. Marcus ™
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Anytime someone makes an assumption about me, I agree with them. Sometimes i even create an absurd story based on their assumptions to make things a little more interesting. Hilarity really. Cracks me up.
Mind games works wonders when it comes to dealing with these ignorant people. Sooner or later (usually later) they get the hint and leave me alone. |
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10-23-2009, 03:49 PM |
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Dhaz Lone Ranger
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depends on the mood i'm in and how i feel towards the peson making the assumption.... ppl almost always come tot eh wrong assumption where i'm concerned so i have learned when i'm not pmsin 9or jus plain feelin bitchy) to let it roll off my back
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11-01-2009, 01:35 PM |
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Princess
Join Date: Jun 2005
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I ignore these things for the most part... And there are a LOT of assumptions people make about me. But another thing i do sometimes, is instead of blowing up, which i never do in this case - I make them feel really small and retarded
 I cant help it, i just have to do it in certain situations. 
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