[BlueSerenity]

was reading this article and it pretty much explains what i always felt was one of the main reasons so many women dont have orgasms..lack of stimulation based on what their bodies respond to..aside from a few other things...but ive been told that many men dont have orgasms either or have a hard time having an orgams although i dont know the reasons why...
so what do you think are some of the reasons why some men and women dont have orgasms..

The difference between a "clitoral" and a "vaginal" orgasm lies in where you are being stimulated to achieve orgasm, not where you feel the orgasm. This may clear up some of the confusion around this common question. The clitoris has a central role in elevating feelings of sexual tension. During sexual excitement, the clitoris swells and changes position. The blood vessels throughout the entire pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and creating a feeling a fullness and sexual sensitivity. Your inner vaginal lips swell and change shape. Your vagina balloons upward and your uterus shifts position in your pelvis.

For some women, the outer third of their vagina and the cervix are also very sensitive, or even more sensitive than the clitoris. When these areas are stimulated during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, these women can have intense orgasms. This would be what is referred to as a vaginal orgasm without clitoral stimulation.

According to JAMA (the Journal of the American Medical Association), 43 percent of American women suffer from some form of "Female Sexual Dysfunction"--often placing the blame on themselves for their inability to reach orgasm. Stop blaming yourself. If you are alone, masturbation will help you find what feels right for you. If you have a partner, talk to him. Often, the clitoris is under-stimulated during sexual intercourse--which is what prevents many women from having an orgasm. If you have orgasms due to your cervix being stimulated, tell your partner this (or whatever else does it for you).

[Mz K]

sex is more complicated then men think :p

[BlueSerenity]

i also think many women either dont know their own bodies or just wont tell their partners what's pleasurable to them...women find stimulation in different parts of their bodies more pleasurable than others...so if a woman who gets more pleasure from clitoral stimulation is having sex with a man who is trying to stimulate her vaginally then of course this woman wont have as many orgasms or if she does have them they wont be as intense...like wise if a woman find vaginal stimulation more pleasurable ..then for her clitoral stimulation is seen as just foreplay and will always leave her wanting more and feeling unfulfilled....but also...if a woman gets more pleasure from vaginal ceiling stimulation...the little soft spot up there...and her man's penis curves downwards or the sexual position they normally do is not conducive to that part being stimulated then that woman will not experience intense orgasms and some may not experience them at all...so i would say in cases like that size and shape or and sexual position can make a big difference....and i dont only mean the size of the man's penis but also the size of the woman vagina....which is why it is important for us to try different things with our partners and leanr about our own bodies and communicate that to them...

[Mz K]

Most men think "all women" are the same...and some feel like they fighting with you instead of "loving" your body

[Shana B]

Sorry for all who cant... i think it has alot to do with the person .... Are they thinkin too much etc
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[MrCee]

Hmm...the women in this thread definitely know their body

[Mr. Marcus ™]

Originally Posted by Mz K

sex is more complicated then men think :p

women (some) make it more complicated for themselves.

Just be like a guy and focus on one task instead of 19 sextillion things and you'll be good money.

You dont hear guys complaining about nothing when it comes to sex because we know our goal and we focus on that goal and that goal ONLY

[BlueSerenity]

its comes back to communication...the fact is that we are creature of habits...so a guy will make love to you based the way he did to those before you and he'll do what worked for them...and you cant blame him for that he is just going on what he knows...if that doesnt work for you then its up to you to tell/show him what works for you...likewise a woman will do what she knows worked before....
i could tell/show any man how to give me a level 1 level 2 or level 3 orgasm based on my own scale...exactly what position or move..or intensity...but sometimes its not even about the orgasm itself...its about the pleasure you are enjoying in order to get there...the little teasing of the senses before they "explode"...so we have to be open to exploration which always makes it more fun...sex is great when there is mutual pleasure and especially when both ppl are able to have intense orgasms...if only one person is having a good time then you can be sure there will be resentment which will show up in other parts of the relationship...

i wonder how some ppl would react to their partners telling them or giving them tips about their bodies though...maybe thats the better question to ask...how many ppl would be ok with it...or how many ppl would take offense...

[BlueSerenity]

was talking about this article to my best friend and she said something that makes all the sense in the world...a woman will never fully enjoy sex with a man she doesnt trust...no matter how much she loves him no matter how long they have been together if she doesnt trust him her mind will not allow her to fully engage sexually...she will always hold back a part of herself....because she is not sure if he is doing the same with someone else...